Self Deception


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“We will find out what we need to do when we quit lying to ourselves and see the situation for what it is.

Many people use self-deception and denial as a way of avoiding having to deal with issues about themselves, their circumstances or people around them. What they often do not realise is that this locks them in to a cycle of self-sabotage and poor self esteem that blocks their ability to move forward in their lives and prevents them living their dreams.

You know if you have been lying to yourself. You know what you believe and whether or not you are honoring it. You know what your values are and whether or not you are upholding them.

Only you can decide to get brave, stop lying, and start being the person you know you want to be – in thoughts, words, and actions.

Being honest does not…

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Kindness towards oneself


A very good description of self-love/self-compassion

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Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect? You may try to change in ways that allow you to be more healthy and happy, but this is done because you care about yourself, not because you are worthless or unacceptable as you are. Perhaps most importantly, having compassion for yourself means that you honor and accept your humanness.  Things will not always go the way you want them to.  You will encounter frustrations, losses will occur, you will make mistakes, bump up against your limitations, fall short of your ideals.  This is the human condition, a reality shared by all of us. The more you open your heart to this reality instead of constantly fighting against it, the more you will be…

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